I Will be a Good Mother: The Silver Lining of a Negative Childhood

A vast majority of us are guilty of dwelling on our pasts, me included. I look back on my childhood with anger and resentment, thanks to my biological mother and former foster mother; one being incapable and selfish, the other being manipulative and cruel.

I’d always been a little adult instead of a child when it came to mothering my sisters but, at times, I wish I could have experienced everything that all other kids my age had. My tender age was only ever apparent to me when I was faced with the fury of my stepfather. I was finally taken away from it all but found myself even deeper into Hell with a woman who saw me as a scapegoat and emotional punching bag. My only solace were the four walls of my bedroom.

Neither were very good role models for a young girl.

But (and it’s a big but) I’m thankful for the valuable lessons I learned from them both:

  • Because of my bio mother’s incompetence, I learned how to care for a baby at the age of 6 and remember it all to this day,
  • Because of her selfish choices I know never to choose a man over my children (in fact, my children will always be my upmost priority),
  • Thanks to my foster mother’s constant furious screaming, I know to stay calm and talk to them when my kids do something wrong,
  • Thanks to her obvious hatred I know what unconditional love will feel like when I look at my own children,
  • And thanks to both, I know that when my child spends all their time in their room, it’s a sign that something is troubling them, and they need me.

My biggest fear has always been ending up as a bad mother and at times it drags me into paranoia, but deep down I know that my children will be loved, happy, and free to be themselves.

xx Chloe

Posted By  : The Hormona Team

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