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How to train yourself to think positively
The new “new normal”: easing post-lockdown anxiety
Self criticism: Does our body image decline during the summertime?
Let’s talk body image and body dysmorphia: Part 1
Depression Symptoms: How to know if you are depressed or just feeling sad
How to Beat Burnout
Antidepressants Part 2: side effects
Antidepressants part 1: the basics
How to Beat Burnout
Stress: 5 top tips to beat it today
Mental Health at Work – Self-Care Isn’t Enough!
What is Imposter Syndrome?
How The Sea Can Help Your Health
Are you your own worst enemy?
How to find the happy in these times
Jealousy? Make it Your Fuel, Not Your Poison
How to declutter in ten easy steps
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
Destressing: 10 quick ways to destress
All You Need To Know About Tapping
Even Depression Can Be Sexist. How Much Does Your Gender Affect Your Mind?
How Interior Design Can Influence Your Mental Wellbeing
Information Overload – how to find some quiet in busy times
Anxiety: what it is and how to cope with it.
Self-Care Activities for Mental Health
Plant Power: The Benefits of Tea For Mental Health
All You Need to Know About Borderline Personality Disorder
How Baths Can Cure Your Mental Health
The Physical Side of Mental Health: Mind and Body
Trouble Sleeping? Night Anxiety and Nocturnal Panic Attacks
Childhood Hoarding: Emotional Attachment
What we can learn from acting more like children
Anxiety and Depression: Why are they so Widespread? And What’s the Difference?
Triggered: Knowing Your Mental and Emotional Triggers
What Is Your Inner Child and Why Is It Important that it is healed?
Fear of Phone Calls and How to Deal With Social Anxiety
Seeing Red: Anger and Emotional Pain
Project Happiness!
Self-Care Tips For Every MBTI Personality Type
Self Esteem – How to accept yourself
Summertime Blues: Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder
Access All Areas – What Is Access Bars Therapy And How Can It Change Your Life?
The Power of Guilt
4 Psychological Reactions to the COVID-19 Pandemic That are Totally Normal!
How to be Kind without being Weak
Why Self-Esteem Affects Your Mental Health
Are your gut health and mental health connected? 
How to Be More Positive (Even When Life Gets Hard)
When Did You Stop Making Art? Why Art is Good For Your Mental Health
Self-Compassion and Taking a Day To Yourself
Health Anxiety: The Other Pandemic That’s Rampant Right Now
What Are Gut Instincts and Should You Trust Them?
The Underrated Power of Travel for Mental Health – 5 Ways Travel Can Improve Your Health
Why Being Kind to Yourself is So Important and 6 Ways to Practise Being Kind to Yourself
Burnout: The What, the Why, and the How Plus 3 Tips on How to Cope
Dealing with Tube Stress 
Imposter Syndrome: How to slay self-doubt for good
Why Hating Pink Is Actually Internalised Misogyny  
Top 5 Life-saving Self-help Podcasts of 2020
Therapy through sound? How you can use ASMR for self-care
Personal Reset Day: A Basic Guide
Using Affirmations: The Power of Positive Thinking 
Understanding Talking Therapies 
Compassion Fatigue: Are current affairs harming your mental health?
Releasing Anger- How to release anger safely 
Derealisation and Depersonalisation: When Reality Loses Focus
Health Shaming: It’s a thing
Five Tips for Coping with Change 
Feeling The January Blues? Or Just Having a Bad Day? This is How To Survive a Bad Day, Step by Step
Why I Listen to Sad Music When I’m Sad 
Somatic Experiencing: Restoring Balance to Heal Trauma
Anxiety: Four Symptoms We Don’t Talk About
The Most Common Anxiety Disorders
Your Nervous Breakdown Is a Blessing, Not A Curse
Thriving As A “Highly Sensitive Person” At Work
Tips For Noticing When You Are Being Irrational Or Overthinking And Exercises To Combat it
Who Are You Trying To Please? Seeking Fulfilment Instead Of Validation
Horror Films: My Unusual Way Of Managing Depression
4th Pillar: Spiritual Wellness, Asking Some Hard Questions
Anxiety: A Follow-Up to Understanding Anxiety 
Burnout Is Literally Breaking Our Brains, A Personal Story.
Understanding Anxiety: Is Anxiety Always Unhelpful Darling?
2nd Pillar : Emotional Wellness Are You Emotionally Healthy?
I Will be a Good Mother: The Silver Lining of a Negative Childhood
You do you Hun? Why Being True to Yourself is Important for Good Mental Health 
Our Favourite Apps That Can Guide You Through The Hard Times 
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others And Focus On Yourself
The Art Of Altering Your Perception
Food Habits that Signal Stress and How to Combat Them
Why Tidying Your House Reduces Stress
Is therapy a 21stcentury obsession, or a must?
5 small changes that can positively influence your mental health
How Are You, Darling?
How Your Head Controls Your Body
Happily Never After: Why Sad Endings May Be More Uplifting
Always Look Up Darling
How to alter your social media usage for the better
Are Your Childhood Nicknames Still Holding You Back?
Learn to be Inspired by Those Around You and Stop Obsessively Comparing Yourself to Others
The Digital Working Age and Impact on Mental Health
5 Easy Ways to Access Your Vulnerability
How Well do You Know Yourself; How to Become More Self-Aware
What’s in Your Stress Bucket? The Stress Bucket Model
The Secret Sauce to Success is Self-Belief
Am I too sensitive?
New Year – New me?
How to Stop Objectifying Yourself Immediately
Watch for the warning signs: what are the signs of stress?
How to stay sane with social media
Workplace loneliness: how you can avoid feeling isolated at work
What you need to know about depression and how to beat it
Apple A Day Keeps The Anxiety Away: How To Stay Healthy When Youre Stressed
How you can avoid feeling overwhelmed at work
How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positive
Moving Forward: How You Can Let Go of The Past
How to Make More Time for Yourself and Relax
How to Train Your Mind for Contentment
How to Turn Stress into Helpful Energy
7 Ways to Improve your Mental Health
How to Keep the Perfect Work-Life Balance
How to Shift Your Mindset Away from Negativity

So who remembers what PMA stands for? If you are of a certain age, you may recall this Persil advert where a young boy was told that if he wanted

November 25, 2021

Things are starting to open up now around the world. If you’re based in the UK, then chances are you’ve been going out (responsibly I hope!) for a while now.

July 19, 2021

Summer is officially here. While that can be exciting for some, for others, it can be a time of stress, self criticism and frustration. I am a firm believer and

June 28, 2021

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June 1, 2021

Darlings, no matter how hard you try, you can’t be a little ray of sunshine every single day. Fact! Sometimes you just don’t feel like smiling because you’ve had a

May 21, 2021

Let's talk about how we can beat burnout. There’s no denying it, the past 12 months have been tough. Our lives have changed in ways we never thought possible; we

April 29, 2021

Today we are talking about the side effects of antidepressants. A couple of weeks ago with kicked of this antidepressant series with an article about antidepressants in general and all

April 21, 2021

I’m sure you’ve heard a lot about antidepressants. Maybe some of you have family and friends who have tried them, or maybe you’re considering them for yourself. Here’s the thing:

April 6, 2021

Let's talk about how we can beat burnout. There’s no denying it, the past 12 months have been tough. Our lives have changed in ways we never thought possible; we

February 21, 2021

Darlings, do you get easily stressed, or do you roll with the punches? Work, money, family, there’s so much to do and so little time to do it all. Is

January 4, 2021

The stigma of opening up about mental health struggles is finally beginning to fade. This makes conversations on mental health at work too - which plays a huge part in

January 2, 2021

Imposter Syndrome seems to be everywhere, How many famous actors or celebrities, people in the public eye have come forward to say that they suffer from Imposter Syndrome. So what

December 31, 2020

The ocean covers seventy per cent of the earth and its importance is unmistakable. It’s an enormous source of food for much of the world, it acts as a carbon

December 5, 2020

Do you sometimes wish it would be wonderful to have someone in your corner? Someone who won’t think you’re stupid, or your ideas are completely whacked, or that despite lounging

December 1, 2020

With our heads filled with viruses and lockdowns, closures and our finances, it’s hard to stay positive. Added to that are reports from medical professionals warning us of the effects

November 28, 2020

Why We Feel Jealous Do you ever think about jealousy? Or is someone making you jealous? It could be your lifelong nemesis, your dearest friend, or your own sister. We've ALL

November 6, 2020

Maybe it’s because we’re spending more time at home in 2020, or because the nights are drawing in and we want to make our houses cosy. There has never been

November 4, 2020

Autumn just happens to be my favourite time of year. I love it. Beautiful crisp,sunny days, the colours of the leaves falling off the trees, and of course the exitement

October 3, 2020

With stresses coming from all directions at the moment, work, financial, health, not leaving your home for six months because of a global pandemic…. It’s easy to let stress get

September 17, 2020

Have you heard of tapping? Until I recently stumbled across a tapping video on Instagram I had no idea what it was or how it could help me. Intrigued by

September 11, 2020

Although the arts of self-reflection and introspection may just come more easily to women than men — rightly or wrongly being considered the more emotionally attuned of the sexes ,

September 1, 2020

Our homes are places for comfort and security, personal sanctuaries that reflect our taste, style and inner selves. They are places where we have a connection to ourselves and given

August 19, 2020

The more chaotic your life is, the more you need balance to find quiet in busy times. Most of us survive on a mixture of adrenaline, coffee and days crammed

August 18, 2020

Today with want to talk about anxiety and how you can cope with anxiety. Since anxiety is getting more and more common we want to make sure you can all

August 16, 2020

Today we're talking about self-care activities for mental health. When we think about self-care we immediately think about facemasks, candles and general relaxation, however these are not the only ways

August 15, 2020

My dad is fond of saying, in his lovely English/Irish way, that there is no problem a good cup of tea cannot solve. I’ve always been inclined to agree with

August 14, 2020

Borderline personality disorder, often shortened to BPD, is a relatively new mood disorder that was first diagnosed in 1980.  Those with BPD have difficulty understanding and dealing with their emotions,

August 10, 2020

We all think of bathing as a pretty straightforward affair, something you do for personal hygiene or as a self-indulgence. My memories of having baths mostly come from being a

August 5, 2020

When we think of mental health, we think just of that. Mental; in our heads. But what often goes hand in hand with mental health struggles, are the physical reactions

August 3, 2020

We’re all aware of the many links that have been drawn between our mental health and our sleep schedules. Suffering from poor sleep can make matters worse and struggling from

August 1, 2020

When I was a child, I used to keep shoeboxes full of things under my bed. So much so, my mum wouldn’t let me keep shoeboxes anymore. I was a

July 24, 2020

Maybe it’s because they don’t have mortgages weighing them down, work deadlines or hungry mouths to feed, but when you examine it, children are having all the fun and we’ve

July 20, 2020

Anxiety and depression. Those two loaded terms that hold so much weight and spark so many emotions in modern society. Most of us claim to suffer from at least one

July 17, 2020

Mental health presents itself to us in different ways and there are lots of overlap and similarities. But for the most part, it’s an intensely subjective experience. What brings on

July 16, 2020

We’ve all been told to take care of ourselves, our physical and mental health, our wellbeing, and everything in between. But, one important thing we need to care about is

July 7, 2020

We live in a technological age with many of us currently working from home, communicating with friends and having interviews and appointments over the phone. When you don't feel like

June 19, 2020

What is anger? Anger is a basic human emotion. One of the first ones we learn about as children along with happy and sad, scared and surprised. Something we don’t

June 15, 2020

What is happiness? What makes us happy? I think if you were to ask this question, most people would answer winning the lottery, or buying a bigger house, new car,

May 30, 2020

If you didn't catch my introduction to the MBTI personality types article, then now is definitely time to check that one out. I'll wait! Done? Good. So by now, I'm

May 23, 2020

Self-esteem is a hot topic. Poured over and analysed by countless psychologists – its most literal translation is ‘a confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect’. We all have

May 21, 2020

What is seasonal affective disorder? Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that occurs seasonally, usually in the winter, due to absence of sunlight that affects our melatonin

May 5, 2020

When you think of your life and all the things you would like to achieve does it seem impossible? Do your dreams feel like just that; dreams that will never

May 3, 2020

A quick poll of my closest female friends, on what they feel most guilty about revealed something interesting. All of them, except one (who is single, happy, and has never

April 28, 2020

As discussed previously, both in terms of self-love in its most basic form, as well as using these strange circumstances as a rare opportunity for self-discovery, the unprecedented times we

April 27, 2020

We all know that the world could use a little more kindness. The #BeKind movement took off on social media some months ago, and we at Selfish Darling are here

April 22, 2020

Self-esteem: - confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect. "The self-concept is what we think about the self; self-esteem, is the positive or negative evaluations of the self, as

April 18, 2020

In my last article I noted the importance of keeping your gut microbiome in good health to improve your overall wellbeing. This article investigates the link between good gut health and your

April 12, 2020

Staying upbeat and positive when all seems bleak is the underrated skill we could all do with sharpening. The ups and downs of life are inevitable. We cannot always feel

April 10, 2020

At one point in our lives, we all made some kind of art. Whether that was when we were a child, or more recently as a hobby, or maybe you

April 4, 2020

“When admiring other people's gardens, don't forget to tend to your own flowers.” - Sanober Khan We are surrounded by media. Pictures, articles, websites, books, podcasts and videos; all of

April 3, 2020

We all are guilty of feeling a little paranoid health-wise at the moment, especially now that the ongoing Covid-19 media coverage is bombarding us with messages of impending doom from

March 30, 2020

"The head and heart may be in denial of your human needs, but the gut will always carry the wisdom of your needs met and unmet, and thusly respond.”- Martha

March 29, 2020

We've all declared “I need a holiday” at some point in life, but this yearning for a getaway may be more than just a shallow lust for beachside cocktails (not

March 25, 2020

In Julia Cameron’s book, ‘The Artist’s Way,’ she guides you towards the rediscovery of your creative identity, overcoming blocks, fears, guilts, and strengthening confidence and belief. She writes: “We must actively,

March 24, 2020

If relentless stress has you feeling helpless, disillusioned, and utterly exhausted, you may be on the road to burnout. Reel yourself in before you crash! Learn what you can do

March 16, 2020

The London Underground is undoubtedly one of the best ways to travel the city, for locals and tourists alike. But there is are many things about the Tube that invoke

March 9, 2020

Have you ever felt that you were the only one in a classroom or meeting who didn’t have a clue what was going on? You look around the crowd of

March 7, 2020

Internalised misogyny is a real issue within our society. It appears in places we wouldn't even expect. Not liking the colour pink could actually be caused by internalised misogyny.  Regardless

March 6, 2020

Among the many recent health and wellness trends, there seems to be one key theme connecting them all. Nope! It’s not money, though the wellness industry is definitely booming. It’s

March 5, 2020

I'll bet you've heard of talking therapy, aromatherapy, therapy through touching such as massage or acupuncture or somatic experiencing, even therapy through food or crochet! How lucky we are in

February 21, 2020

Sometimes we all have to have a personal reset day. Life can build up around us, causing us stress and we just need to take a day to sort things

February 20, 2020

Affirmations- the Basics If any of us have heard of affirmations before, it was probably connected to the images of yoga and meditation, and perhaps therefore cast aside as something that

February 11, 2020

People often feel that going to talk to a therapist is reserved for those who are crazy, or very unwell, this couldn't be further from the truth. Ask yourself Darling

February 7, 2020

Does checking the news nowadays leave you feeling overwhelmed and hopeless? Maybe you've hit an emotional wall, where you feel you have no more energy for all the negativity -

February 6, 2020

How to safely express anger  “Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” (Buddha) 

February 5, 2020

Have you ever had that freaky feeling that you're in a dream - but you're actually awake? Nothing particularly strange may be happening but something about the world around you

February 2, 2020

We’ve all heard about fat-shaming, and even skinny-shaming – but what about.... Health shaming? As the developed world's food issues become increasingly polarised - with us obsessing over the latest

January 29, 2020

I am, self-aware and fully admitted, terrible with change. Truly. I hate it. But as a part of life, it’s inevitable and you have to get used to it whether you want to or

January 23, 2020

January blues are no joke. Sure, bad days can strike at any time. A toxic person making you feel less-than, a shaky patch in your work, studies, or personal life.

January 15, 2020

There has been countless research pointing towards the profound affect music can have on our mood and emotions. Studies show it can help with memory and music therapy is making waves in the treatment

January 6, 2020

What Is Somatic Experiencing? Somatic Experiencing is a body-oriented form of therapy aimed to heal trauma and other stress disorders. The practice aims to release built-up energy and tension from

December 28, 2019

Often mocked as a buzzword or our generation, we hear a lot about anxiety these days. But far from being a joke or a "snowflake" disorder, many of us -

December 23, 2019

What is anxiety disorder? Anxiety Disorder Definition:   When we are diagnosed with Anxiety, this refers to Generalised Anxiety Disorder, also known as GAD, hence the fact that the diagnostic

December 17, 2019

Feeling fragile? Crippling social anxiety, off your food and struggling to get out of bed each day? Maybe you feel an overwhelming sense of exhaustion, apathy, and doom? Don’t worry

December 16, 2019

From dealing with criticism to speaking up in meetings, the office can be a nightmare for a highly sensitive person, but it doesn’t have to be! Being a highly sensitive

December 9, 2019

Getting caught up in your thoughts is far too easy, though it can be extremely hard to spring back from these and avoid the risk of your thoughts spiralling out of

December 5, 2019

As social creatures, we are wired to feel good when praised and validated by those around us. This is not inherently unhealthy, but putting our entire value down to the

December 2, 2019

Like 25% of people in the UK, I struggle with depression daily, and have done for most of my life. Even after 3 years of taking medication, I often still

November 29, 2019

Spiritual Wellness has become an important part of our everyday lives. “Spirituality does not come from religion … it comes from our soul” (Anthony D. Williams – ‘Inside the divine

November 27, 2019

Following on from our last article of ‘Understanding Anxiety’ we are now going to consider how to beat anxiety Darling.  If you’re interested to see where your anxiety levels currently sit an NHS

November 23, 2019

We hear a lot about burnout these days - everyone knows at least one person who had to take long-term leave or quit their job because of it. I was

November 22, 2019

Is Anxiety Always Unhelpful? No, although when you are a quivering wreck and can't stop running to the loo it can feel very unhelpful, however, there is a very good

November 16, 2019

It’s easy to know when your physical health needs a little attention, isn’t it? You feel those aches and pains, the sniffles, the breathlessness to name but a few and

November 13, 2019

A vast majority of us are guilty of dwelling on our pasts, me included. I look back on my childhood with anger and resentment, thanks to my biological mother and

November 7, 2019

When we consciously acknowledge and accept who we are and our desires, we might find we are more open, honest and true to ourselves, creating good mental health and positive

November 4, 2019

The ever-growing focus on self-care and its importance has, thankfully, found its way onto the app market. Self-care has never been so easily accessible, and there are a number of

October 13, 2019

When checking feeds on social platforms such as Facebook or Instagram, or even whilst watching programmes or movies on the television, it is very common that people will compare themselves

October 2, 2019

Despite the fact that some of our darkest times stem from the workings of our minds, the mind also has an incredible amount of strength, so much so that it

September 25, 2019

We all get stressed now and again. Whether it be relationships, work, family or just general life, many things can affect our stress levels. A sure sign that you are

September 7, 2019

We live in a heavily materialistic world, where every company, shop and business is trying to get you to buy their wares. This consumerism leads to a material build up

September 2, 2019

The Americans seem to be obsessed. They call their therapist one of their best friends, their confidante in times of need; their ex has just turned up in town, they’re

September 1, 2019

1. Keep your room tidy There is certainly a reason the saying ‘tidy room, tidy mind’ exists. Setting a few minutes aside each day to tidy up your room can

August 31, 2019

How are you? A sentence that is often the first learnt when trying to master a new language, to most learners, no matter the language, it comes easy enough. But,

August 28, 2019

Your mind makes you, you Darling, it also determines how you function in life. Very recently in an attempt to boycott the 30 something weight balloon, liver sorosis from the

August 26, 2019

Hollywood movies are best known for one thing – a charming happy ending. But there’s a mounting body of evidence to show that our attraction to a satisfying, uplifting ending,

August 19, 2019

When following your own path it can be hard to feel like you aren’t having a quarter or mid-life crisis Darling. Thinking about the rebels of society  who often stand

August 18, 2019

In a world so consumed by social media and the internet, such things are pretty hard to avoid. However, it is important to adapt the ways these are used to

August 16, 2019

The funny one. The silly one. The naughty one. The clumsy one. Most of us grew up with ‘joke’ nicknames, given to us by our family and friends. But there’s

August 10, 2019

We’ve all been there, late night scrolling in the darkness, face illuminated by the pale eerie light of our phone screens, comparing our life with that of our friends, family

July 28, 2019

It doesn't take Stephen Hawkins (RIP) style intelligence to realise the digital age is having an impact on our wellbeing if you didn't realise you must be an idiot. Our

July 22, 2019

Vulnerability – one of the biggest buzzwords in the self-care scene right now. Experts tell us that allowing ourselves to be more vulnerable will open us up to deeper relationships,

July 9, 2019

Do you know who you are Darling? Or do you just think you do? Being self-aware is the ability to monitor our inner world – our thoughts, feelings, how we

July 5, 2019

Let's talk about stress Stress is a word that consumes our society, even the Dalai Lama worries about whether he looks good in his robes occasionally. As women there is

July 2, 2019

One of the fabled sayings that resonates most with the modern-day entrepreneur, originates from Henry Ford. He said that if you think you can or you cannot, you are right

June 25, 2019

Am I too sensitive? Have you ever found yourself asking this question?  Or perhaps you have been accused of being “too sensitive”?  Has a rude comment left you pondering over why someone

June 18, 2019

The clock strikes 12 am. Big Ben has his moment, skies across the world light up and we cheer and hug anyone that makes eye contact with us and wish

January 15, 2019

Do you ever get yourself all dressed up to go out and check yourself out in the mirror, only to be deeply dissatisfied and feel like staying home?  Perhaps crippling

November 27, 2018

We can knot ourselves into a yoga pose, and deep breathe until the cows come home, but stress is still a fact of life. And sometimes, it feels as if

November 5, 2018

Let’s be honest: we are all pretty chummy with the green- eyed monster. She feeds off our pain, maybe even some guilt now and then, and her fuel is the

October 30, 2018

From those fresh out of school, to those just switching departments, a new job is pretty scary. New people, new responsibilities, a new photocopier to try and work out; it’s overwhelming

October 19, 2018

Look around. Chances are, whether it’s you, or someone sitting next to you on the bus, someone has had depression. And although the symptoms leave us feeling lonely, we are

October 15, 2018

When our anxiety kicks into high gear, we all know the drill. We trade out the carrot sticks for something a little bit sweeter, and swap out our well-balanced dinners

October 6, 2018

Chances are that already today you have bare witness to the adverts, and articles, and tweets, and headlines that day after day tell us the same story: we are all

September 18, 2018

In life it is easy to focus on the negatives rather than the positives. Any failures or bad things that happen tend to effect us more, as it is easy

September 12, 2018

Regrets plague us all, whether it’s in our career, our relationships, or any other decision we won’t be bragging about at our next school reunion. If it’s dealing a sharp

August 27, 2018

When you are working hard at your career and trying to please those around you, keeping up a social life whilst also trying to live in a clean house, it

August 6, 2018

Contentment is a choice. Just as love is a verb, we truly believe that happiness is too. Throughout life, there will be challenges and hard times that we can't control

June 11, 2018

When stress takes over your mind, sometimes it can feel like there's no stopping it. It comes in many different forms; you might not be able to eat (or you

June 4, 2018

Emotional, psychological and social well-being are all included in the "mental health" umbrella term. At some point in all our lives, we will have to nurse our mental health. Whether

May 7, 2018

Being a boss can be hard. You have a high-flying career, long hours and endless at-home preparation. Not only that, there’s no doubt that you also have a calendar filled

May 4, 2018

In our everyday life, negativity is present all the time. It could be at work, in your social life or just daily annoyances that can make you feel really fed

April 23, 2018
how to beat burnout

How to Beat Burnout

Let’s talk about how we can beat burnout. There’s no denying it, the past 12 months have been tough. Our lives have changed in ways we never thought possible; we...

how to beat burnout

How to Beat Burnout

Let’s talk about how we can beat burnout. There’s no denying it, the past 12 months have been tough. Our lives have changed in ways we never thought possible; we...